how can i save my marriage
I have been with my present partner for 25 years. Our sex
life has completely diminished. I decided that not all
of that blame could lay with my husband, so about 3 years
ago I set about improving my appearance. I lost 3 stone;
re vamped my image, and then told my husband how bored I was
with my life. He was totally devastated, was completely
unaware of how unhappy I was. When I asked him whom he thought
I had lost all the weight and had the revamp for, he said that
he had not really noticed.
He promised to change and begged me to stay. He did change
for a short while. But things are back to where they were,
no sex, no complements, he sleeps a lot, and I try to pass
the time away with work and going out with work fiends. I
have asked several of my male friends what I can do to rectify
the situation, and they have give me various thoughts on
what turns them on; nice underwear, no underwear, the woman
to make the first move, jealousy. I tried them all; the only
one I have any success with is if I make the first move. But
the success is only for him after oral sex; he just rolls
over and falls to sleep. The only explanation I can think
of is that he no longer has any feelings or desire for me,
but does not want me to make a life for myself.
Help! what can I do to retrieve my marriage?
Or should I just make a fresh start?
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