When is it ok,to date again?
I need sum advice on a situation that could be asked over
n over, but i was married for 14 years to the same man and
have 3 very beautifull children by him 12-9-7 now, .our
divorced was like many long and ugly, (took 2 yrs)to be
final, in which time my oldest was badly hurt by alot of
his actions.
i tried to keep it out and away frm the boys, but its not always
possible, only way he got to me was thru hurting the children
exspecially the oldest, (not physicaly)but worse..scares
heal, but emotions you live with forever.emotions were
running high, alot of hurt feelings , tears and confusion.
it took me almost another two years to want to allow myself
to even think about another man, and in doing that my boys
and i became a very strong, solid family.but im not bitter
anymore and im ready to pick up my life and brush off the fear
and start over, only my oldest is TOTALLY against it, every
attempt i make in explaining to him the need i have to carry
on and be happy im told but mom were perfectly fine as things
are, (a young mind at wrk huh?)and ill tell him yes but i
can make sound decisions so theres nuthing to worry bout, he
says yes mother but you thought daddy was a gd guy too and
look wat happend? he had a point there.
I decided to live my life anyways, and wen i did, he closed
up and was not as himself, it hurt me tremendously, i dont
really no wat to do, ive thought long and hard on it and i
know i cant let a child run things, and im the adult, but
our children are the most important ppl in our lives and
i kinda feel wen we have them , thier needs cum first, .am
i wrong in thinking this way? i need to know im not alone in
my delima.OR AM I???
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